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When our great Teacher went to John to be
baptized, not having reached his motive, the good patriarch was astounded, and
reading his thoughts, Jesus prefaced his purpose saying, "Suffer these things
to be so now, for thus it becometh us to fulfill all righteousness," that is,
yield obedience to common forms, until you reach the understanding of their
spiritual significance. Marriage is the only legal and moral form among the
higher species, for generation, and until the spiritual creation is discerned
and the union of male and female apprehended in its Soul-sense, this rite
should continue under such moral regulations as secure increasing virtue.
Infidelity to the marriage covenant is the social scourge of all peoples; the
pestilence that wasteth and walketh at noon-day. The commandment, "Thou shalt
not commit adultery," is not less imperative, than "Thou shalt not kill."
Virtue is the basis of civilization and progress; without it there is no true
foundation to society, and it were utterly impossible to attain the Science of
Life; but virtue should be recognized; and the fear to take responsible posts
of duty lest the vicious misjudge you, be wholly removed. Owing to the shocking
depravity of mankind, chastity is looked at suspiciously; it requires more
moral courage for woman to meet the low estimates in society of virtue, than to
help lift its standard from the dust.
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The last infirmity of error that would fasten
itself on society, to see it hop and hobble under a new burden of guilt, is
named "free love"; wherein "they declare their sin as Sodom, and hide it not,"
but the boldness of depravity will show its deformity. A union of the masculine
and feminine mind seems requisite for completeness; the former reaches a higher
tone from communion with the latter; and the latter gains courage and strength
from the former; therefore, these different individualities meet and demand
each other, and their true harmony is oneness of Soul. Woman should be loving,
pure, and strong. Man, tender, intellectual, controlling; the attraction
between the sexes will be perpetual only as it is pure and true, and like the
seasons, brings its sweet changes and renewal. Beauty, wealth, or fame is
incompetent to meet the demands of the affections, and should never waver the
balance against the more honest claims of intellect, goodness, and virtue.
Happiness is spiritual, born of Truth and Love; it is unselfish; therefore it
cannot exist alone, but requires an object to cherish. Our affections are not
poured forth vainly, when meeting no return; they enrich the being, enlarging,
purifying and elevating it. The wintry blasts of earth may transplant the
flowers of affection, or scatter them to the winds; but sundering ties of
flesh, unites us to God, where Love supports the struggling heart, until it
ceases to sigh over earth, and folds its wings for heaven.
Marriage is blest or unblest, according to the
disappointment it incurs, or the motive it fulfills. To happify existence by
constant intercourse with those adapted to elevate it is the true motive for
marriage;
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wedlock gives pinions to joy, or trails its
drooping wings in dust. Notes are illy arranged that produce discord; tones of
mind may be different, but they should be concordant, to blend harmoniously.
Unselfish ambition, nobler motives for existence, increased harmony, happiness
and usefulness, because the different elements of mind meet and mingle, finding
in union there is strength -- is the true marriage. Let there be moral freedom
in wedlock; never contract the limit of worthy deeds by a selfish exaction of
all one's time and thoughts. With additional joys, benevolence should grow more
diffusive, for the narrowness and jealousy that would confine a wife or husband
forever at home, will not promote the sweet interchange of confidence that
comes of love; while a wandering desire for incessant amusement outside the
home circle is a poor augury for happiness. Home is the dearest spot on earth,
and should be the center, but not the boundary of the affections. Said the
peasant bride to her lover, "Two eat no more together than when they are
separate," and this should furnish the hint, that a wife ought not to enter
into vulgar extravagance, or stupid ease, because another supplies her wants.
Wealth may obviate the necessity- for toil or ill nature in the marriage
relation, but nothing can shirk its cares. "She that is married careth for her
husband, how she may please him," and this is the very thing it is pleasant to
do. Matrimony should be entered into with a full recognition of its enduring
obligations, and the most tender solicitude for each other's happiness and
approbation should wait on all its years. Mutual compromises preserve a compact
that might otherwise become burdensome. Man should
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not be required to participate in all the
annoyances and cares of domestic economy, or woman to understand political
economy; but fulfilling the different demands of separate spheres, their
sympathies may blend to comfort, cheer and sustain each other, thus hallowing
the copartnership of interests and affection whereon the heart leans and is at
peace. Tender words, and unselfish care for what promotes the respect and
happiness of thy wife, is more salutary in prolonging her smiles and
health, than stolid indifference, or jealousy; husbands, hear this, and
remember how slight a thing might have spared the old trysting times. It is too
late after marriage to grumble over disparities of dispositions; a mutual
understanding should exist before, and continue ever after this union.
Deception is fatal to happiness. The nuptial vow is never annulled so long as
its moral obligations are preserved, but the frequency of divorce shows the
sacredness of this relation losing its puritanical character, and that some
fatal mistake is undermining its true basis. A separation takes place when the
motives for marriage are not suited to individual progress and happiness. The
science of being inevitably lifts us higher in the scale of harmony, and will
ultimately shake off all shackles that fetter the mind, ripe for advancement.
Therefore, to avoid a disruption in the marriage relation, mutual tastes, joys,
and aspirations are necessary to form a happy companionship. The beautiful, is
the good in character, that clasps the indissoluble links of affection.
A mother's affection cannot be separated from
her child, embracing as it does, purity and Truth, both of which are immortal,
therefore it lives on under all
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difficulties. From the very logic of events, we
learn the selfish and impure are all that is fleeting, and that Wisdom will
ultimately separate what it hath not joined together.
Marriage should improve the species, become a
barrier to vice, a protection to woman, a strength to man, and a center for the
affections. This, however, in a majority of cases, is not its present tendency;
and because the education of our higher natures is neglected for other
considerations, frivolous amusements, adornments of the person, passion,
display, and pride. An ill-attuned ear calls discord harmony, not apprehending
concord; so personal sense, discerning not the true happiness of being, places
it on a false basis; but science corrects the discord and teaches us Life's
sweeter harmonies. Soul hath infinite resources wherewith to bless mankind, and
happiness were more readily attained and secure in our keeping if sought of
Soul. The higher order of enjoyments are all that satisfy the cravings of
immortal man; we cannot circumscribe our happiness within the limits of wealth
or fame. The good we possess should have ascendency over the evil, and the
spiritual over the animal, or happiness is never reached. This would improve
progeny, diminish crime, give higher aims to ambition, and prepare the way for
science. The offspring of such parents would inherit more intellect, better
balanced minds, and sounder constitutions. If some fortuitous circumstance
places in the arms of gross parents a more spiritual offspring, the beautiful
child early droops and dies, like a tropical flower dropped amid Alpine snows;
or marrying reproduces in the helpless offspring the grosser traits of
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her ancestors. What hope of happiness, or noble
ambition hovers around the child inheriting propensities that must be overcome,
or reduce him to a loathsome wreck. For propagating the human species, is there
not greater responsibility than for your garden culture, or the stock of your
flocks and herds? Nothing should be transmitted to offspring unworthy to
perpetuate. The formation and education of even mortal mind, must improve
before the millennium. The most important education of the infant is to keep it
mentally free from impurity, and let mind develop the body harmoniously; mind,
and not matter, should govern the physical. For parents to create a desire in
their child for incessant amusement, always to have some demand on hand to be
fed, rocked, tossed, or talked to, and afterwards complain of their child's
fretfulness, or in after years of Its frivolity,- all of which they have
occasioned, is art error.
Yielding one's thoughts to contemplate physical
wants surely produces them. A single requirement beyond what is necessary to
meet the most modest needs of the babe is hurtful. The condition of the
stomach, bowels, food, clothing, etc., is of no serious import to your child.
Your views regarding them will produce the only result they can have on the
health of your child. The daily ablution of an infant is not more natural or
necessary than to take a fish out of water and cover it with dirt, once a clay,
that it may thrive better in its natural element. Cleanliness is next to
godliness, but washing should be only to keep the body clean, and this can be
done with less than daily scrubbing the whole surface.'
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Giving drugs to infants, noticing every symptom
of flatulency, or constantly directing your mind to them, laden with beliefs of
disease, laws of health, sickness, and death, conveys your mental image to
their bodies and stamps it there, making it probable at any time to be
reproduced in the disease you fear. Your child can have worms if you say so, or
whatever fear the mind holds, relative to that body; it is thus you lay the
foundation of disease and death, and educate your child into discord and. out
of harmony. The entire education of children should be only such as will form
habits of obedience to moral and spiritual law; there is no physical law to be
consulted.
Taking less thought "what ye shall eat or what
ye shall drink," will do much more than you are aware of for the health of
rising generations. Children should be allowed to remain children in knowledge,
and become men and women through the understanding of their spiritual being. We
should not think for a moment a law of matter outside of ourselves can harm our
babe, for it cannot. Intelligence outside of matter, that forms the bud and
blossom will regulate the body, even as it clothes the lily, if we do not
interfere by some belief. The higher nature of man is not governed by the
lower; this would annul the order of Wisdom; the false views we entertain of
being, hide the eternal harmony and produce the ills of which we complain.
Because the belief of intelligent matter is accepted, and the opposite science
of mind rejected, shall we submit it is true, or that, the so-called laws of
sense are superior to laws of Soul? You would never conclude a flannel is
better to ward off pulmonary disease than the Intelligence that
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forms the body, if you understand the science of
being. Man is the offspring of Spirit; the beautiful, good and pure are his
ancestors ; his origin is not brute instinct, nor does he pass through material
conditions up to man. Spirit is his primitive and ultimate being, and God his
Father.
The rights of woman are discussed on grounds
that seem to us not the most important. Law establishes a very unnatural
difference between the rights of the two sexes; but science furnishes no
precedent for such injustice, and civilization brings, in some measure, its
mitigation, therefore it is a marvel that society should accord her less than
either. Our laws are not impartial, to say the least, relative to the person,
property, and parental claims of the two sexes; and if the elective
enfranchisement of woman would remedy this evil without incurring difficulties
of greater magnitude, we hope it will be effected. A very tenable means at
present, is to improve society in general, and achieve a nobler manhood to
frame our laws. If a dissolute husband deserts his wife, it should not follow
that the wronged and perchance impoverished woman cannot collect her own wages,
or enter into agreements, bold real estate, deposit funds, or surely claim her
own offspring free from his right of interference. A want of reciprocity in
society is a great want that the selfishness of the world has occasioned. Our
forefathers exercised their faith in the direction St. James taught, " To visit
the fatherless and widows, and keep yourself unspotted from the world "; but
ostentation, the master of ceremonies, and stereotyped belief have ruled out
primitive Christianity, so that when a man would lend a helping
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hand to some noble woman, struggling alone with
adversity, his more prudent wife saith "'Tis never beat to interfere with thy
neighbor's business."
Again, a wife is withheld from the ready aid her
Sympathy and charity would afford, by some domestic tyrant. The time cometh
when marriage will be a union of hearts; and again, the time cometh when there
will be no marrying or giving in marriage, but we shall be as the angels; the
Soul rejoicing in its own mate wherein the masculine Wisdom and feminine Love
are embraced in the understanding. Because progeny needs to be improved, let
marriage continue, and permit no breaking down of law whereby a worse state of
society is produced, than at present.
Puritanical honesty and virtue should be the
stability of this covenant; Soul will ultimately claim its own, and the voices
of personal sense be hushed. Marriage should be the school of virtue, and
offspring the germ of man's highest nature. Christ, Truth, should be present at
the altar, to turn the water into wine, giving inspiration to understanding,
whereby man's spiritual origin and existence are discerned. If the foundations
of affection are consistent with progress, its vows will be strong and
enduring. Divorces inform the age that some fundamental error in this union is
the source of its discord. To pin the science, hence the harmony of this
relation, we should regard it more metaphysically and less physically.
The broad-cast power of evil so conspicuous
to-day, is the materialism of the age struggling against the spiritual era,
that advances; beholding the world's lack of Christianity, and the
powerlessness of promises, to
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make good husbands or wives, mind will at length
demand a higher affection, and ferment on this and many other subjects, until
it settles down on an improved understanding. But the fermentation of fluids is
not pleasant, during this nondescript stage, and matrimony that was once a
fixed fact, is not so desirable on a slippery foundation.
The mental chemicalization that has brought
infidelity to the surface, will as surely throw it off, and marriage will
settle down purer after the scum is expelled. ,Sweet are the uses of adversity,
which like the toad, ugly and venomous, wears yet a precious jewel in his
head." They teach us not to lean upon earth, it is a broken reed, that pierces
to the heart. We do not half remember this in the sunshine of joy and
prosperity. But sorrow is more salutary, and points us from the cross to the
crown prepared for those who pass to their reward through much tribulation.
Trials are but proofs of God's care for his children. When spiritual
development takes place it germinates not from seed sown in the soil of earthly
hopes; rather do these decay to propagate anew in Spirit those higher joys that
have no taint of earth, and thus our experiences go up higher, and a point is
won in progress.
In conjugal felicity, it is well to remember how
fleeting are the joys of earth, and be grateful for them. In conjugal
infelicity, separate not if there is no moral demand for this; far better
&wait the logic of events, than for a wife precipitately to leave a
husband, or a husband his wife, for if one is better than the other, this other
pre-eminently needs good company. Socrates considered patience salutary under
such circumstances,
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making his Xanthippe a discipline for his
philosophy. Sorrow has its reward, and never leaves man where it found him; it
is the furnace that separates the gold from the dross, and gives back the image
of God. The cup our Father hath given, shall we not drink it? and learn the
lesson He inculcates.
When the ocean is stirred by a storm, the clouds
lower, the wind screams through the straitened canvas, and waves lift
themselves to mountains, we ask the helmsman, "Do you know your course, and can
you steer your vessel amid the storm?" Even the dauntless seaman is not sure of
his fate, well knowing the science of navigation is not equal to the Science of
God; but acting up to his highest understanding, firm at the post of duty,
awaits the issue. Thus should we deport ourself in the seething ocean of
sorrow, hoping and working, stick to the wreck, until the logic of events
precipitates the doom, or sunshine gladdens the wave.
The possibility that animal natures give more
force to character than the spiritual, is too absurd to consider, when we
remember the exemplar of man healed the sick, raised the dead, and commanded
even the winds and waves to obey him, through the ascendency of the spiritual
over the material. What we avail ourselves of God, is as potent with us as it
was with Jesus, and our want of spiritual strength speaks the rebuke it
deserves; and our limited demonstration puts to shame the labor of centuries.
We should hold our body not so much in personal, as spiritual consciousness,
even as the orange we have just eaten, and of which only the idea is left, then
would there be neither
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pain nor sin. Systems of physic and systems of
doctrines treat of the pleasures and pains of personal sense; but Christ takes
them all away, and the epoch approaches when to understand this Principle of
being, will form the basis of all harmony and progress. At present we live
ridiculously for fear of being thought ridiculous; are slaves to fashion,
appetite, and sense; in the future we shall learn Soul is an architect that
makes men and women beautiful, noble, and not to be blotted out. We ought to
weary of the fleeting and false, hence, of personal sense, and cherish nothing
that hinders our highest self-hood.
Frugality is essential to domestic prosperity,
and so is affection; but to silence the voice of conscience to gain wealth, is
trade without profit. The genius of woman shrinks from controversy with a
knave, or a fool. A man respects the reputation of a woman, but a mouse will
gnaw in the dark a spotless garment. Culture and refinement are not things of
the toilet, but reflections of head and heart. Innocence is a gem, worn
unconscious of pick-pockets. Husbands that dissipate care in the club, are poor
stocks in ready markets. A husband is the best friend, or worst enemy of his
wife. "Favor is deceitful, and beauty vain, but a woman of Wisdom, should be
praised." A bad woman is a loathsome leprosy, dangerous to all that approach
her. In marriage, avoid disparity in ages, tastes, or education, and make
choice only of those qualities that wear well. Jealousy is the grave of
affection; mistrust where confidence is due touches with mildew the flowers of
Eden, and scatters to the four winds the leaves of love. A bridal altar is
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verge of a new existence; wherein the old is
fading out of the experience, to admit the new; two beings mingling into one;
be not in baste to take the vow, "until death do us part," but consider well
its obligations, responsibilities, and relations to all your future happiness;
"judge before friendship, then confide till death."
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