Science and Health with Key to The Scriptures
CHAPTER III
MARRIAGE
What therefore God hath joined together, let not
man put asunder. In the resurrection they neither marry, nor are given in
marriage, but are as the angels of God in heaven. - JESUS. |
WHEN our great Teacher came to him for baptism, John
was astounded. Reading his thoughts, Jesus added: "Suffer it to be so now: for
thus it becometh us to fulfil all righteousness." Jesus' concessions (in
certain cases) to material methods were for the advancement of spiritual
good. |
Marriage temporal |
Marriage is the legal and moral provision for
generation among human kind. Until the spiritual creation is discerned intact,
is apprehended and understood, and His kingdom is come as in the vision of the
Apocalypse, where the corporeal sense of creation was cast out, and its
spiritual sense was revealed from heaven, marriage will continue, subject to
such moral regulations as will secure increasing virtue. |
Fidelity required |
Infidelity to the marriage covenant is the social
scourge of all races, "the pestilence that walketh in darkness, . . . the
destruction that wasteth at noonday." The commandment, "Thou shalt not commit
adultery," is no less imperative than the one, "Thou shalt not kill." Chastity
is the cement of civilization and progress. Without it there is no stability in
society, and without it one cannot attain the Science of Life. |
Mental elements |
Union of the masculine and feminine qualities
constitutes completeness. The masculine mind reaches a higher tone through
certain elements of the feminine, while the feminine mind gains courage and
strength through masculine qualities. These different elements conjoin
naturally with each other, and their true harmony is in spiritual oneness. Both
sexes should be loving, pure, tender, and strong. The attraction between native
qualities will be perpetual only as it is pure and true, bringing sweet seasons
of renewal like the returning spring. |
Affection's demands |
Beauty, wealth, or fame is incompetent to meet the
demands of the affections, and should never weigh against the better claims of
intellect, goodness, and virtue. Happiness is spiritual, born of Truth and
Love. It is unselfish; therefore it cannot exist alone, but requires all
mankind to share it. |
Help and discipline |
Human affection is not poured forth vainly, even
though it meet no return. Love enriches the nature, enlarging, purifying, and
elevating it. The wintry blasts of earth may uproot the flowers of affection,
and scatter them to the winds; but this severance of fleshly ties serves to
unite thought more closely to God, for Love supports the struggling heart until
it ceases to sigh over the world and begins to unfold its wings for heaven.
Marriage is unblest or blest, according to the disappointments it involves or
the hopes it fulfils. To happify existence by constant intercourse with those
adapted to elevate it, should be the motive of society. Unity of spirit gives
new pinions to joy, or else joy's drooping wings trail in dust. |
Chord and discord |
Ill-arranged notes produce discord. Tones of the human
mind may be different, but they should be concordant in order to blend
properly. Unselfish ambition, noble life-motives, and purity, these
constituents of thought, mingling, constitute individually and collectively
true happiness, strength, and permanence. |
Mutual freedom |
There is moral freedom in Soul. Never contract the
horizon of a worthy outlook by the selfish exaction of all another's time and
thoughts. With additional joys, benevolence should grow more diffusive. The
narrowness and jealousy, which would confine a wife or a husband forever within
four walls, will not promote the sweet interchange of confidence and love; but
on the other hand, a wandering desire for incessant amusement outside the home
circle is a poor augury for the happiness of wedlock. Home is the dearest spot
on earth, and it should be the centre, though not the boundary, of the
affections. |
A useful suggestion |
Said the peasant bride to her lover: "Two eat no more
together than they eat separately." This is a hint that a wife ought not to
court vulgar extravagance or stupid ease, because another supplies her wants.
Wealth may obviate the necessity for toil or the chance for ill-nature in the
marriage relation, but nothing can abolish the cares of marriage. |
Differing duties |
"She that is married careth . . . how she may please
her husband," says the Bible; and this is the pleasantest thing to do.
Matrimony should never be entered into without a full recognition of its
enduring obligations on both sides. There should be the most tender solicitude
for each other's happiness, and mutual attention and approbation should wait on
all the years of married life. Mutual compromises will often maintain a compact
which might otherwise become unbearable. Man should not be required to
participate in all the annoyances and cares of domestic economy, nor should
woman be expected to understand political economy. Fulfilling the different
demands of their united spheres, their sympathies should blend in sweet
confidence and cheer, each partner sustaining the other, thus hallowing the
union of interests and affections, in which the heart finds peace and home.
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Trysting renewed |
Tender words and unselfish care in what promotes the
welfare and happiness of your wife will prove more salutary in prolonging her
health and smiles than stolid indifference or jealousy. Husbands, hear this and
remember how slight a word or deed may renew the old trysting-times. After
marriage, it is too late to grumble over incompatibility of disposition. A
mutual understanding should exist before this union and continue ever after,
for deception is fatal to happiness. |
Permanent obligation |
The nuptial vow should never be annulled, so long as
its moral obligations are kept intact; but the frequency of divorce shows that
the sacredness of this relationship is losing its influence, and that fatal
mistakes are undermining its foundations. Separation never should take place,
and it never would, if both husband and wife were genuine Christian Scientists.
Science inevitably lifts one's being higher in the scale of harmony and
happiness. |
Permanent affection |
Kindred tastes, motives, and aspirations are necessary
to the formation of a happy and permanent companionship. The beautiful in
character is also the good, welding indissolubly the links of affection. A
mother's affection cannot be weaned from her child, because the mother-love
includes purity and constancy, both of which are immortal. Therefore maternal
affection lives on under whatever difficulties. From the logic of events we
learn that selfishness and impurity alone are fleeting, and that wisdom will
ultimately put asunder what she hath not joined together. |
Centre for affections |
Marriage should improve the human species, becoming a
barrier against vice, a protection to woman, strength to man, and a centre for
the affections. This, however, in a majority of cases, is not its present
tendency, and why? Because the education of the higher nature is neglected, and
other considerations, passion, frivolous amusements, personal adornment,
display, and pride, occupy thought. |
Spiritual concord |
An ill-attuned ear calls discord harmony, not
appreciating concord. So physical sense, not discerning the true happiness of
being, places it on a false basis. Science will correct the discord, and teach
us life's sweeter harmonies. Soul has infinite resources with which to bless
mankind, and happiness would be more readily attained and would be more secure
in our keeping, if sought in Soul. Higher enjoyments alone can satisfy the
cravings of immortal man. We cannot circumscribe happiness within the limits of
personal sense. The senses confer no real enjoyment. |
Ascendency of good |
The good in human affections must have ascendency over
the evil and the spiritual over the animal, or happiness will never be won. The
attainment of this celestial condition would improve our progeny, diminish
crime, and give higher aims to ambition. Every valley of sin must be exalted,
and every mountain of selfishness be brought low, that the highway of our God
may be prepared in Science. The offspring of heavenly-minded parents inherit
more intellect, better balanced minds, and sounder constitutions. |
Propensities inherited |
If some fortuitous circumstance places promising
children in the arms of gross parents, often these beautiful children early
droop and die, like tropical flowers born amid Alpine snows. If perchance they
live to become parents in their turn, they may reproduce in their own helpless
little ones the grosser traits of their ancestors. What hope of happiness, what
noble ambition, can inspire the child who inherits propensities that must
either be overcome or reduce him to a loathsome wreck? Is not the propagation
of the human species a greater responsibility, a more solemn charge, than the
culture of your garden or the raising of stock to increase your flocks and
herds? Nothing unworthy of perpetuity should be transmitted to children. The
formation of mortals must greatly improve to advance mankind. The scientific
morale of marriage is spiritual unity. If the propagation of a higher
human species is requisite to reach this goal, then its material conditions can
only be permitted for the purpose of generating. The foetus must be kept
mentally pure and the period of gestation have the sanctity of virginity. The
entire education of children should be such as to form habits of obedience to
the moral and spiritual law, with which the child can meet and master the
belief in so-called physical laws, a belief which breeds disease. |
Inheritance heeded |
If parents create in their babes a desire for
incessant amusement, to be always fed, rocked, tossed, or talked to, those
parents should not, in after years, complain of their children's fretfulness or
frivolity, which the parents themselves have occasioned. Taking less "thought
for your life, what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink"; less thought "for
your body what ye shall put on," will do much more for the health of the rising
generation than you dream. Children should be allowed to remain children in
knowledge, and should become men and women only through growth in the
understanding of man's higher nature. |
The Mind creative |
We must not attribute more and more intelligence to
matter, but less and less, if we would be wise and healthy. The divine Mind,
which forms the bud and blossom, will care for the human body, even as it
clothes the lily; but let no mortal interfere with God's government by
thrusting in the laws of erring, human concepts. |
Superior law of Soul |
The higher nature of man is not governed by the lower;
if it were, the order of wisdom would be reversed. Our false views of life hide
eternal harmony, and produce the ills of which we complain. Because mortals
believe in material laws and reject the Science of Mind, this does not make
materiality first and the superior law of Soul last. You would never think that
flannel was better for warding off pulmonary disease than the controlling Mind,
if you understood the Science of being. |
Spiritual origin |
In Science man is the offspring of Spirit. The
beautiful, good, and pure constitute his ancestry. His origin is not, like that
of mortals, in brute instinct, nor does he pass through material conditions
prior to reaching intelligence. Spirit is his primitive and ultimate source of
being; God is his Father, and Life is the law of his being. |
The rights of woman |
Civil law establishes very unfair differences between
the rights of the two sexes. Christian Science furnishes no precedent for such
injustice, and civilization mitigates it in some measure. Still, it is a marvel
why usage should accord woman less rights than does either Christian Science or
civilization. |
Unfair discrimination |
Our laws are not impartial, to say the least, in their
discrimination as to the person, property, and parental claims of the two
sexes. If the elective franchise for women will remedy the evil without
encouraging difficulties of greater magnitude, let us hope it will be granted.
A feasible as well as rational means of improvement at present is the elevation
of society in general and the achievement of a nobler race for legislation, a
race having higher aims and motives. If a dissolute husband deserts his wife,
certainly the wronged, and perchance impoverished, woman should be allowed to
collect her own wages, enter into business agreements, hold real estate,
deposit funds, and own her children free from interference. Want of uniform
justice is a crying evil caused by the selfishness and inhumanity of man. Our
forefathers exercised their faith in the direction taught by the Apostle James,
when he said: "Pure religion and undefiled before God and the Father, is this,
To visit the fatherless and widows in their affliction, and to keep himself
unspotted from the world." |
Benevolence hindered |
Pride, envy, or jealousy seems on most occasions to be
the master of ceremonies, ruling out primitive Christianity. When a man lends a
helping hand to some noble woman, struggling alone with adversity, his wife
should not say, "It is never well to interfere with your neighbor's business."
A wife is sometimes debarred by a covetous domestic tyrant from giving the
ready aid her sympathy and charity would afford. |
Progressive development
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Marriage should signify a union of hearts.
Furthermore, the time cometh of which Jesus spake, when he declared that in the
resurrection there should be no more marrying nor giving in marriage, but man
would be as the angels. Then shall Soul rejoice in its own, in which passion
has no part. Then white-robed purity will unite in one person masculine wisdom
and feminine love, spiritual understanding and perpetual peace. Until it is
learned that God is the Father of all, marriage will continue. Let not mortals
permit a disregard of law which might lead to a worse state of society than now
exists. Honesty and virtue ensure the stability of the marriage covenant.
Spirit will ultimately claim its own, all that really is, and the voices of
physical sense will be forever hushed. |
Blessing of Christ |
Experience should be the school of virtue, and human
happiness should proceed from man's highest nature. May Christ, Truth, be
present at every bridal altar to turn the water into wine and to give to human
life an inspiration by which man's spiritual and eternal existence may be
discerned. |
Righteous foundations |
If the foundations of human affection are consistent
with progress, they will be strong and enduring. Divorces should warn the age
of some fundamental error in the marriage state. The union of the sexes suffers
fearful discord. To gain Christian Science and its harmony, life should be more
metaphysically regarded. |
Powerless promises |
The broadcast powers of evil so conspicuous today show
themselves in the materialism and sensualism of the age, struggling against the
advancing spiritual era. Beholding the world's lack of Christianity and the
powerlessness of vows to make home happy, the human mind will at length demand
a higher affection. |
Transition and reform |
There will ensue a fermentation over this as over many
other reforms, until we get at last the clear straining of truth, and impurity
and error are left among the lees. The fermentation even of fluids is not
pleasant. An unsettled, transitional stage is never desirable on its own
account. Matrimony, which was once a fixed fact among us, must lose its present
slippery footing, and man must find permanence and peace in a more spiritual
adherence. The mental chemicalization, which has brought conjugal infidelity to
the surface, will assuredly throw off this evil, and marriage will become purer
when the scum is gone. Thou art right, immortal Shakespeare, great poet of
humanity: |
Sweet are the uses of adversity;
Which, like the toad, ugly and venomous, Wears yet a precious jewel in his
head. |
Salutary sorrow |
Trials teach mortals not to lean on a material staff,
a broken reed, which pierces the heart. We do not half remember this in the
sunshine of joy and prosperity. Sorrow is salutary. Through great tribulation
we enter the kingdom. Trials are proofs of God's care. Spiritual development
germinates not from seed sown in the soil of material hopes, but when these
decay, Love propagates anew the higher joys of Spirit, which have no taint of
earth. Each successive stage of experience unfolds new views of divine goodness
and love. Amidst gratitude for conjugal felicity, it is well to remember how
fleeting are human joys. Amidst conjugal infelicity, it is well to hope, pray,
and wait patiently on divine wisdom to point out the path. |
Patience is wisdom |
Husbands and wives should never separate if there is
no Christian demand for it. It is better to await the logic of events than for
a wife precipitately to leave her husband or for a husband to leave his wife.
If one is better than the other, as must always be the case, the other
pre-eminently needs good company. Socrates considered patience salutary under
such circumstances, making his Xantippe a discipline for his philosophy.
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The gold and dross |
Sorrow has its reward. It never leaves us where it
found us. The furnace separates the gold from the dross that the precious metal
may be graven with the image of God. The cup our Father hath given, shall we
not drink it and learn the lessons He teaches? |
Weathering the storm |
When the ocean is stirred by a storm, then the clouds
lower, the wind shrieks through the tightened shrouds, and the waves lift
themselves into mountains. We ask the helmsman: "Do you know your course? Can
you steer safely amid the storm?" He answers bravely, but even the dauntless
seaman is not sure of his safety; nautical science is not equal to the Science
of Mind. Yet, acting up to his highest understanding, firm at the post of duty,
the mariner works on and awaits the issue. Thus should we deport ourselves on
the seething ocean of sorrow. Hoping and working, one should stick to the
wreck, until an irresistible propulsion precipitates his doom or sunshine
gladdens the troubled sea. |
Spiritual power |
The notion that animal natures can possibly give force
to character is too absurd for consideration, when we remember that through
spiritual ascendency our Lord and Master healed the sick, raised the dead, and
commanded even the winds and waves to obey him. Grace and Truth are potent
beyond all other means and methods. The lack of spiritual power in the limited
demonstration of popular Christianity does not put to silence the labor of
centuries. Spiritual, not corporeal, consciousness is needed. Man delivered
from sin, disease, and death presents the true likeness or spiritual ideal.
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Basis of true religion |
Systems of religion and medicine treat of physical
pains and pleasures, but Jesus rebuked the suffering from any such cause or
effect. The epoch approaches when the understanding of the truth of being will
be the basis of true religion. At present mortals progress slowly for fear of
being thought ridiculous. They are slaves to fashion, pride, and sense.
Sometime we shall learn how Spirit, the great architect, has created men and
women in Science. We ought to weary of the fleeting and false and to cherish
nothing which hinders our highest selfhood. Jealousy is the grave of affection.
The presence of mistrust, where confidence is due, withers the flowers of Eden
and scatters love's petals to decay. Be not in haste to take the vow "until
death do us part." Consider its obligations, its responsibilities, its
relations to your growth and to your influence on other lives. |
Insanity and agamogenesis
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I never knew more than one individual who believed in
agamogenesis; she was unmarried, a lovely character, was suffering from
incipient insanity, and a Christian Scientist cured her. I have named her case
to individuals, when casting my bread upon the waters, and it may have caused
the good to ponder and the evil to hatch their silly innuendoes and lies, since
salutary causes sometimes incur these effects. The perpetuation of the floral
species by bud or cell-division is evident, but I discredit the belief that
agamogenesis applies to the human species. |
God's creation intact |
Christian Science presents unfoldment, not accretion;
it manifests no material growth from molecule to mind, but an impartation of
the divine Mind to man and the universe. Proportionately as human generation
ceases, the unbroken links of eternal, harmonious being will be spiritually
discerned; and man, not of the earth earthly but coexistent with God, will
appear. The scientific fact that man and the universe are evolved from Spirit,
and so are spiritual, is as fixed in divine Science as is the proof that
mortals gain the sense of health only as they lose the sense of sin and
disease. Mortals can never understand God's creation while believing that man
is a creator. God's children already created will be cognized only as man finds
the truth of being. Thus it is that the real, ideal man appears in proportion
as the false and material disappears. No longer to marry or to be "given in
marriage" neither closes man's continuity nor his sense of increasing number in
God's infinite plan. Spiritually to understand that there is but one creator,
God, unfolds all creation, confirms the Scriptures, brings the sweet assurance
of no parting, no pain, and of man deathless and perfect and eternal. If
Christian Scientists educate their own offspring spiritually, they can educate
others spiritually and not conflict with the scientific sense of God's
creation. Some day the child will ask his parent: "Do you keep the First
Commandment? Do you have one God and creator, or is man a creator?" If the
father replies, "God creates man through man," the child may ask, "Do you teach
that Spirit creates materially, or do you declare that Spirit is infinite,
therefore matter is out of the question?" Jesus said, "The children of this
world marry, and are given in marriage: But they which shall be ac counted
worthy to obtain that world, and the resurrection from the dead, neither marry,
nor are given in marriage." |
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